There was a time, as embarrassing as this is to say, that I really thought I had everything figured out. Seriously. I was absolutely certain I was right about most things. My thinking was infected with SHOULDS– rigid, harsh, judgmental shoulds that served as a breeding ground for … [Read more...] about The Problem with Certainty
One of my favorite movies growing up was Swiss Family Robinson. There is a scene in the film where the eldest son, Fritz, finds himself in a river wrestling an anaconda. Rolling over and under, again and again, knife in hand, Fritz struggles to conquer the massive snake. … [Read more...] about Why Can’t I Get Over It?
The raw, powerful Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why, has generated a fair bit of discussion and controversy. Based on a novel with the same title, the series tells the story of a girl, Hannah, who leaves behind tapes explaining the 13 reasons why she committed suicide. The … [Read more...] about WHY WE NEED TO PAY ATTENTION TO 13 REASONS WHY
Typically, people come to therapy because of emotional pain — either theirs or those in their inner circle. Sometimes because of trauma, people are so shut down and so far-removed from their emotions that it is difficult for them to even describe what they are feeling. What do … [Read more...] about Understanding Our Emotions
Who is God, and what can we expect of him in times of crisis? Our answer depends on how we answer these three questions: Is He there? Is He good? Is He trustworthy? This is especially true when our prayers seem to fall on deaf ears, and nothing turns out the way we … [Read more...] about When God Isn’t Who You Think He Is
Few of us have escaped the wretched experience of being emotionally sucker-punched, wronged, or betrayed. We didn't see it coming. This wasn't supposed to happen! Our belief that life is fair and predictable is shattered. To add insult to injury, we are often cajoled to get … [Read more...] about Why Is Forgiveness So Hard?