The truth can hurt. We don’t want to deal with things that feel scary and painful. People can be endlessly creative in finding ways to resist seeing what they don’t want to see. The problem is what we do to avoid anxiety-provoking situations keeps us stuck and amplifies our pain. … [Read more...] about Spiders and Booze: Facing the Truth
Many of the couples who ask me to meet with them have been married 10, 15 or even 25+ years. Their kids are out of the house, and the “empty nester” years that they so anticipated are now here. But it not what they expected. With kids, homework, careers, finances, the yard, … [Read more...] about Is the “High Point” of My Marriage Already Over?
I have read many articles on mindfulness and being present. It seems they are always written by mindful and present people. I guess that is good because all of these people seem to be successful in this arena, but what if you are an obsessive, in your head, looking to the next … [Read more...] about How To Be Present If You’re Easily Distractible
Does this sound familiar? I feel like my brain is always going, and it feels impossible to slow it down. When I'm at home, I'm thinking about work, and when I'm at work, I'm wishing I was at home. When I go on vacation, I find myself worried about things back home or at work. … [Read more...] about Too Many Tabs Open
Have you noticed how the world feels like it is falling apart at the seams lately? Hurricanes, floods, fires, earthquakes, political turmoil, and even threat of nuclear attack. It just doesn't seem to stop! I called my sister the other day just to talk and the conversation … [Read more...] about Exercise as a Remedy for Worry
At home you have a routine. It may be sleeping in until noon or eating ice cream every night before bed, but it is your routine. If you are part of a family or team, over time your routines meld together like a musical harmony. Change creates short-term imbalance, disrupting the … [Read more...] about How To Reduce Anxiety In Your Daily Life