A few weeks ago, I had the idea of getting my kids a butterfly kit to experience the wonder of transformation. My little two-year-old is totally obsessed with insects right now so I knew it would light him up and I couldn’t wait to see his reaction. I went to Amazon and a few … [Read more...] about When Hoping Hurts
Typically, people come to therapy because of emotional pain — either theirs or those in their inner circle. Sometimes because of trauma, people are so shut down and so far-removed from their emotions that it is difficult for them to even describe what they are feeling. What do … [Read more...] about Understanding Our Emotions
Who is God, and what can we expect of him in times of crisis? Our answer depends on how we answer these three questions: Is He there? Is He good? Is He trustworthy? This is especially true when our prayers seem to fall on deaf ears, and nothing turns out the way we … [Read more...] about When God Isn’t Who You Think He Is
It Isn't Fair I remember after a particularly painful experience in my life, I began to feel like God had forgotten me. I couldn’t seem to understand why God would allow something so painful in my life, when I was consistently serving him, and trying to live the “right” way. It … [Read more...] about Stop Defending God
I said something that I wish I hadn’t. The words were out before I had processed. It was one of those times when I replay the comments over and over in my head while shaking my head and cringing simultaneously. I hoped it wasn’t as bad as I thought. I hoped that when I got … [Read more...] about The Difference A Little Encouragement Makes
Few of us have escaped the wretched experience of being emotionally sucker-punched, wronged, or betrayed. We didn't see it coming. This wasn't supposed to happen! Our belief that life is fair and predictable is shattered. To add insult to injury, we are often cajoled to get … [Read more...] about Why Is Forgiveness So Hard?