The Goal: I want to win! Last week, my wife and I had a huge fight. Emotions were high. We both were angry with each other. I felt unappreciated and she felt unloved. I didn’t care how she felt because I felt justified in how I was treating her. I’m not quite sure what she … [Read more...] about 3 Reasons Small Disagreements “Blow up”
Typically, people come to therapy because of emotional pain — either theirs or those in their inner circle. Sometimes because of trauma, people are so shut down and so far-removed from their emotions that it is difficult for them to even describe what they are feeling. What do … [Read more...] about Understanding Our Emotions
If I had a dollar for every time someone said, "I don't believe in therapy or psychiatric medications..." I could probably retire already. For these folks, handling life on their own is a point of pride. Often the same people who say this are medicating themselves anyway, just … [Read more...] about Neglecting Your Mental Health: Are You Driving Everyone Crazy?
“I don’t know how it happens! We find ourselves yelling at each other – and we can’t even remember what started it!” “We seem to be arguing more and more.” “If we could only communicate better. That’s all we need. Then maybe we wouldn’t be angry at each other all the … [Read more...] about How to “Decode” Anger’s Secret Message
“Going home” for the Thanksgiving or Christmas holidays? When we were kids, we waited for what seemed to be an eternity until this time of year rolled around. We would count down the days with paper rings, or we would open a “window” on a Christmas holiday Advent calendar … [Read more...] about Family Drama: Six Tips for Surviving the Holidays with Your Parents
The couple met with me almost every week for several months. They leave my office optimistic – even excited – about what their marriage has become and what it will be like in the future. As they leave, the wife turns and says something that has become etched in my memory. “I … [Read more...] about Six “Red Flags” of a Drifting Marriage