The Goal: I want to win! Last week, my wife and I had a huge fight. Emotions were high. We both were angry with each other. I felt unappreciated and she felt unloved. I didn’t care how she felt because I felt justified in how I was treating her. I’m not quite sure what she … [Read more...] about 3 Reasons Small Disagreements “Blow up”
When I was in college I had the opportunity to canoe on some of the most beautiful and challenging white water in north Georgia, Tennessee and North Carolina. Picture some of the rapids shown in the 1994 movie The River Wild. In the spring, the water was high and the currents … [Read more...] about Three Things White Water Canoeing and Marriage Have in Common
Who is God, and what can we expect of him in times of crisis? Our answer depends on how we answer these three questions: Is He there? Is He good? Is He trustworthy? This is especially true when our prayers seem to fall on deaf ears, and nothing turns out the way we … [Read more...] about When God Isn’t Who You Think He Is
Few of us have escaped the wretched experience of being emotionally sucker-punched, wronged, or betrayed. We didn't see it coming. This wasn't supposed to happen! Our belief that life is fair and predictable is shattered. To add insult to injury, we are often cajoled to get … [Read more...] about Why Is Forgiveness So Hard?
If I had a dollar for every time someone said, "I don't believe in therapy or psychiatric medications..." I could probably retire already. For these folks, handling life on their own is a point of pride. Often the same people who say this are medicating themselves anyway, just … [Read more...] about Neglecting Your Mental Health: Are You Driving Everyone Crazy?
“I don’t know how it happens! We find ourselves yelling at each other – and we can’t even remember what started it!” “We seem to be arguing more and more.” “If we could only communicate better. That’s all we need. Then maybe we wouldn’t be angry at each other all the … [Read more...] about How to “Decode” Anger’s Secret Message