The Pattern: Argument Amnesia Ask yourself this question: How often do my spouse and I argue about something, and then the next day I can’t remember what triggered the argument? I certainly remember the tension and the anger or distance I felt, but I … [Read more...] about Why Couples Do Not Recover from Arguments Well
Be Careful What You Believe to be True. Unfortunately, many of the Spiritual “truths” that we are convinced are in Scripture are actually the result of what we hear when we are growing up, what makes sense to us, and (too often) what we see in movies and … [Read more...] about Four “Biblical” Myths That are NOT in the Bible
“I have said I am sorry. How many times do I have to say it?” Does this sound familiar? And often either the husband or the wife is the “usual” one to come back and apologize for some infraction, argument, tone of voice, or conflict. And often the one who is … [Read more...] about Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)
How It Began “Have you washed your hands?” I have probably heard my wife ask me this question at least 50 times a day during the last several weeks. Sometimes I had remembered, sometimes I had not. Sound familiar? During the first several … [Read more...] about Is Social Distancing Causing Marriage Distancing?
A couple I’d been working with reached the end of our work together, and it was time for our closing “graduation” counseling session. As they walked out of my office afterwards, the wife turned to me and said, “I am so grateful that we have spent this time with you. I … [Read more...] about How to Prepare for the “Empty Nest” Years
“Piglet noticed that even though he had a Very Small Heart, it could hold a rather large amount of Gratitude.” ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh I didn’t think that I’d last another minute pulling those weeds in our front yard. It was a typical, sweltering 95° summer day … [Read more...] about How to Make Gratitude Last Past Thanksgiving