Many of the couples who ask me to meet with them have been married 10, 15 or even 25+ years. Their kids are out of the house, and the “empty nester” years that they so anticipated are now here. But it not what they expected. With kids, homework, careers, finances, the yard, … [Read more...] about Is the “High Point” of My Marriage Already Over?
The Now Infamous French Doors About three years ago, my wife and I had an argument that neither of us understood. It did not last long, but it was intense, and we both learned significant lessons by what we did wrong. Because I am an engineer by education and first career, … [Read more...] about The Seven Most Dangerous Words a Wife Can Ask Her Husband
The Goal: I want to win! Last week, my wife and I had a huge fight. Emotions were high. We both were angry with each other. I felt unappreciated and she felt unloved. I didn’t care how she felt because I felt justified in how I was treating her. I’m not quite sure what she … [Read more...] about 3 Reasons Small Disagreements “Blow up”
When I was in college I had the opportunity to canoe on some of the most beautiful and challenging white water in north Georgia, Tennessee and North Carolina. Picture some of the rapids shown in the 1994 movie The River Wild. In the spring, the water was high and the currents … [Read more...] about Three Things White Water Canoeing and Marriage Have in Common
Remember the day of your wedding? You were full of joy, of love, of expectations, enthusiasm, and anticipation. For many of us, it is a spiritual experience. A “high” that we want to continue to live out on a daily basis. But life seems to take over. It sucks the passion … [Read more...] about How a Daily “Take Ten” With God Improves Your Marriage
“I don’t know how it happens! We find ourselves yelling at each other – and we can’t even remember what started it!” “We seem to be arguing more and more.” “If we could only communicate better. That’s all we need. Then maybe we wouldn’t be angry at each other all the … [Read more...] about How to “Decode” Anger’s Secret Message