Avoidance is common and yet it is one of the worst habits or coping styles we use. It offers the promise of temporary peace but ultimately makes our future that much harder. Short-term gain for inevitable long-term pain. Why is this such a common problem? There are many reasons … [Read more...] about The Cost of Avoidance and How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself
During the “Deep Freeze of 2021,” many of us endured the coldest, most prolonged winter experience that we could imagine. Snow, freezing rain, loss of electricity, no heat – you name it, we experienced it. What better way, to enjoy the snow than to walk around … [Read more...] about The Hidden Messages Within “Let It Go” Should Alarm Us
I went to counseling this week. (Yes, counselors have counselors, too.) I’ve had a longstanding relationship with my therapist, scheduling appointments off and on when I’ve needed some extra help navigating seasons of life for the last eight years or so. Sometimes that’s meant … [Read more...] about When Counseling Is Not What You Thought
We’ve all heard about the story of the prodigal son. Jesus shared this story about a wayward child who blew his inheritance, lived recklessly, and once defeated returned back home to his father who readily forgave and embraced him. It was a parable meant to show God’s unrelenting … [Read more...] about When Your Child Doesn’t Share Your Faith
We can’t let our guard down. Too much is at stake. We are rounding out a year with this pandemic. Everyone is exhausted. Some people have never worried and just openly embraced getting the virus and getting it over with. Others lock themselves away hoping they can … [Read more...] about How Could I Have Let My Guard Down?
Almost everyone who comes through my office hears me say “A belief is just a belief, a thought is just a thought, an emotion is just an emotion. Just because I believe something does not make it true. Just because I think something does not make it true. Just because I feel … [Read more...] about Healthy Discernment