Parenting is hard, especially when we don’t really know from day to day what challenges we may be faced with. It can be easy to become reactive to situations involving our children, and these reactions often come from an emotional response that is not always helpful. Emotional … [Read more...] about Proactive Parenting vs. Reactive Parenting
If I had a dollar for every time someone said, "I don't believe in therapy or psychiatric medications..." I could probably retire already. For these folks, handling life on their own is a point of pride. Often the same people who say this are medicating themselves anyway, just … [Read more...] about Neglecting Your Mental Health: Are You Driving Everyone Crazy?
“I don’t know how it happens! We find ourselves yelling at each other – and we can’t even remember what started it!” “We seem to be arguing more and more.” “If we could only communicate better. That’s all we need. Then maybe we wouldn’t be angry at each other all the … [Read more...] about How to “Decode” Anger’s Secret Message
What is trauma? When most people think of trauma, they think of things like natural disasters, witnessing or experiencing violence, or the experiences of soldiers in combat, and they would certainly be right. However, trauma can also occur from less obvious experiences, such as … [Read more...] about 3 Signs of Unresolved Trauma: Is This You?
The couple met with me almost every week for several months. They leave my office optimistic – even excited – about what their marriage has become and what it will be like in the future. As they leave, the wife turns and says something that has become etched in my memory. “I … [Read more...] about Six “Red Flags” of a Drifting Marriage
Try and remember for a moment the last time you had a rather intense “discussion” with your spouse. Not the kind that lasts for two or three minutes and is soon forgotten, but one that might result in several hours (or perhaps days). When every little comment seems to begin an … [Read more...] about Moving from Anger into Intimacy