A common dilemma for many of us is that we want to change, we want to move on, but we remain stuck. We believe the past, with all of its poor choices, defines who we are and determines our future. Many of us simply did not know another way to handle our loneliness, insecurities, … [Read more...] about I Can’t Forgive Myself
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4 Common Reasons People Avoid Getting Help
Pride or Shame Sadly, mental health concerns continue to be a source of shame for many people. What would people think of me if they knew I was in therapy? Sometimes clients are heaping shame on themselves, and sometimes family or friends are shaming them for needing help. … [Read more...] about 4 Common Reasons People Avoid Getting Help
How to Define Trauma
In recent years, the concept of trauma has become normative in our daily vernacular. What I mean by that is culture is talking about trauma in ways that we have never seen before. In so many ways, this is progress! But like so many concepts, there is a spectrum of … [Read more...] about How to Define Trauma
The Cost of Avoidance and How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself
Avoidance is common and yet it is one of the worst habits or coping styles we use. It offers the promise of temporary peace but ultimately makes our future that much harder. Short-term gain for inevitable long-term pain. Why is this such a common problem? There are many reasons … [Read more...] about The Cost of Avoidance and How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself
