Relationship dynamics can be confusing and muddy and leave you feeling unsure of which way is up. Am I right? Are they right? What are we even trying to get to here? Balancing the emotions, desires and needs of other people is complicated. And as someone who is simply … [Read more...] about A.R.E. you there? A Goal for Marriage (And All Intimate Relationships)
Compliance vs. Commitment in Your Marriage: Which Defines You?
What I Learned in Chemical Plants That Mirrors the Marriage Relationship Safe plant operations are like marriage? You’ve got to be kidding! How in the world do we find the parallels between working in the chemical industry and the marriage relationship? I am so glad you … [Read more...] about Compliance vs. Commitment in Your Marriage: Which Defines You?
Is the “High Point” of My Marriage Already Over?
Many of the couples who ask me to meet with them have been married 10, 15 or even 25+ years. Their kids are out of the house, and the “empty nester” years that they so anticipated are now here. But it not what they expected. With kids, homework, careers, finances, the yard, … [Read more...] about Is the “High Point” of My Marriage Already Over?
Resolution Do-Over: 8 Tips for Better Goal-Setting in 2018
Here we are, already at the end of the first month of 2018! I have to ask, how are those new years resolutions working out for you? Most of us have crashed the diet, not seen the gym in two weeks, and have watched way too much Netflix. Many of us are feeling pretty low about … [Read more...] about Resolution Do-Over: 8 Tips for Better Goal-Setting in 2018
Five Ways That Staying Married Impacts Your Kids
The conflicts are becoming more intense and frequent. As the arguments occur daily, they see no hope for staying married. This is the scenario that often enters my office as a couple tries one last time to find help in their relationship. Comments like, “Our constant yelling … [Read more...] about Five Ways That Staying Married Impacts Your Kids
5 Marriage Counseling Myths (That Keep Husbands Away)
It often happens. A wife calls me in desperation. She has suggested marriage counseling to her husband “for years” – and the relationship has reached such a low point that she is not sure she can keep this up. And she is beginning to lose hope – or perhaps she already … [Read more...] about 5 Marriage Counseling Myths (That Keep Husbands Away)