Have you ever watched someone slam a cabinet door and instantly thought, what is their problem? Or maybe you have been the one who went quiet, pulled away, or snapped over something small while the people around you had no idea what was really going on. Most people think … [Read more...] about Every Behavior Is a Message
emotional health
Your Life as a Soundboard: A Simple Way to Understand Emotional Regulation and Personal Growth
Listen to the blog: If you’re like me, you often think, learn, or process in terms of analogies. One analogy that I’ve found myself discussing in session quite a lot lately is that of a soundboard. Have you ever seen a soundboard at a concert or even at church? It’s … [Read more...] about Your Life as a Soundboard: A Simple Way to Understand Emotional Regulation and Personal Growth
The Walls We Build in the Name of Boundaries
Listen to the blog: We have all been hurt by people we care about. That sort of goes with the territory. If we didn’t care about the person, we probably wouldn’t feel the hurt. So, when we get hurt, we do what makes sense. We pull back. We create distance. We start … [Read more...] about The Walls We Build in the Name of Boundaries
When You’re High-Functioning but Emotionally Exhausted
Why “Holding It Together” Is Costing You More Than You Think I still had my hospital wristband on. If we could be really quiet as we crawled in bed, we wouldn’t wake up our 5 year old son, who would be getting up for school soon, or my brother-in-law, who had just … [Read more...] about When You’re High-Functioning but Emotionally Exhausted
The Root of Co-Dependence: Are You Trying to Be Someone’s Savior?
We all want to help the people we love.To rescue them from pain.To hold them together when life is falling apart. That instinct—especially for Christians—can feel like compassion and even our duty. And sometimes it is. But there’s a fine line between helping someone and taking … [Read more...] about The Root of Co-Dependence: Are You Trying to Be Someone’s Savior?
The Quiet Damage of Hiding Your Expectations
I think there are two alternative points of view when it comes to expectations. Many people would say, “If you don’t have any expectations, you won’t be disappointed.” Maybe this would work—just maybe. But what if you’re just telling yourself, you don’t have any … [Read more...] about The Quiet Damage of Hiding Your Expectations
