As a therapist, I spend a lot of time asking people to tell me about their feelings. Sometimes my prompts are met with tearful reaches for the tissue box or angrily furrowed brows. Other times I see a blank, flat expression. “I don’t know what I feel.” If you have ever … [Read more...] about What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Numb
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The ‘Follow Your Arrow’ Fallacy
There’s a catchy country tune that topped the charts not long ago that sung about people following their arrow wherever it points. It talks about doing whatever you want because you only live once, and to let your feelings guide you. The song won awards and I’m guessing for good … [Read more...] about The ‘Follow Your Arrow’ Fallacy
I Can’t Forgive Myself
A common dilemma for many of us is that we want to change, we want to move on, but we remain stuck. We believe the past, with all of its poor choices, defines who we are and determines our future. Many of us simply did not know another way to handle our loneliness, insecurities, … [Read more...] about I Can’t Forgive Myself
A Word to the Self-Protectors | The Risk, Cost, and Reward of Meaningfulness
Self-protecting is a natural human instinct. We are created with this drive for safety- and it serves a good purpose. It keeps us alive and unscathed. It’s a necessary instinct that prevents us from doing something dangerous, stupid, or thoughtless like the cliché jumping off of … [Read more...] about A Word to the Self-Protectors | The Risk, Cost, and Reward of Meaningfulness
The Hidden Messages Within “Let It Go” Should Alarm Us
During the “Deep Freeze of 2021,” many of us endured the coldest, most prolonged winter experience that we could imagine. Snow, freezing rain, loss of electricity, no heat – you name it, we experienced it. What better way, to enjoy the snow than to walk around … [Read more...] about The Hidden Messages Within “Let It Go” Should Alarm Us
Multitasking Your Emotions
I know there are varying opinions on our ability to multitask- is that a thing people can do? But today we’re talking about a different type of multitasking. There’s a phrase I find myself saying often- “holding two emotions at once.” There’s a lot of cultural messages … [Read more...] about Multitasking Your Emotions
