We go through a million phases in life: childhood, adolescence, college, marriage, kids, empty nest, retirement. I’m on the cusp of empty nest. For years I’ve watched my friends cry rivers over their kids leaving home. This year it’s my turn (my eyes are getting a little sweaty … [Read more...] about Fearing the Future
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Marriage: Is God Enough In Hard Times?
As a marriage counselor, I get the joy of seeing complete reconciliation of the relationship and a better marriage than in the beginning. But, at the same time, I must first walk through the valleys with people who do not see a path forward nor can imagine the outcome they hope … [Read more...] about Marriage: Is God Enough In Hard Times?
Striving for Normal, Not Extraordinary
“I’m opting out of needing to be extraordinary.” I read this quote from Lisa Olivera and felt a multitude of feelings simultaneously. Hesitation – because what would it say about me if I’m not excellent? Resistance – because this goal (dare I say idol) of creating … [Read more...] about Striving for Normal, Not Extraordinary
Guard Your Thoughts, Save Your Soul
Our minds are powerful. The mind can bring incredible joy, or incredible despair. We’ve seen versions of ‘guard your thoughts’ on all sorts of wall décor and daily devotionals. Gandhi famously wrote “Watch your thoughts, they become words; watch your words, they become … [Read more...] about Guard Your Thoughts, Save Your Soul
Resiliency at the Cost of Healing
What is the goal of therapy? There are numerous answers to this question, and depending on who you are your answer might be different. Nevertheless, your answer will likely include some sort of outcome where the thing that you came to therapy for, got better- right? You want … [Read more...] about Resiliency at the Cost of Healing
When Doubt Creeps Into Your Faith
I’d like to think that I’m a giant of faith, but the worrier in me knows better. The word ‘doubt’ isn’t supposed to enter a mature Christian’s mind, but it can, and it will, which may shake the foundation of a believer. Maybe the concept of doubt doesn’t seem like much of an … [Read more...] about When Doubt Creeps Into Your Faith