I’ve had the honor of working with many couples over the past several years, and although the stories are unique, the issues usually aren’t. Typically there’s a breach of trust that makes loving and respecting each other difficult, if not impossible. The breach may be obvious … [Read more...] about Helping Your Spouse Open Up Again
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When You Hide Your Hurt, You Can’t Find Healing
This post on working through our feelings and not stuffing our emotions was originally posted in 2018. As I work with clients in 2021, through the tumultuous world events that we are all navigating, many of us feel hurt. Some of us still compartmentalize our emotions … [Read more...] about When You Hide Your Hurt, You Can’t Find Healing
Our Strange Relationship with Anxiety
Peace. It’s what we all want, right? Many people come to therapy because of out-of-control anxiety. They can’t sleep, they can’t relax, everything and everyone irritates them. Anxious people may ruminate about past or present events, but mostly they camp out in the future. They … [Read more...] about Our Strange Relationship with Anxiety
What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Numb
As a therapist, I spend a lot of time asking people to tell me about their feelings. Sometimes my prompts are met with tearful reaches for the tissue box or angrily furrowed brows. Other times I see a blank, flat expression. “I don’t know what I feel.” If you have ever … [Read more...] about What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Numb
Resiliency at the Cost of Healing
What is the goal of therapy? There are numerous answers to this question, and depending on who you are your answer might be different. Nevertheless, your answer will likely include some sort of outcome where the thing that you came to therapy for, got better- right? You want … [Read more...] about Resiliency at the Cost of Healing
Broken Trust Is Not Easily Restored
“You can’t talk yourself out of problems you behave yourself into.” Exactly. I read this quote out of Stephen Covey’s book, Seven Habits of Effective People where he describes his concept of an emotional bank account. It stood out to me because I have had to … [Read more...] about Broken Trust Is Not Easily Restored
