I am old enough to remember the assassination of President Kennedy, the race riots, the Vietnam protests, and the Watergate scandal. Granted I was young, but I definitely picked up on the angst and anger of those around me. I can remember a Canadian friend asking me at that time … [Read more...] about Living in Contentious Times
How Our Marriage Begins: What is it that you enjoy most about a wedding? Is it the music, or the ceremony, or perhaps the reception food? (That’s one of my favorite parts!) For many, it is watching the beautiful bride walk down the aisle. … [Read more...] about Five Reasons We Lose Joy in Marriage
Many of the couples who ask me to meet with them have been married 10, 15 or even 25+ years. Their kids are out of the house, and the “empty nester” years that they so anticipated are now here. But it not what they expected. With kids, homework, careers, finances, the yard, … [Read more...] about Is the “High Point” of My Marriage Already Over?
I said something that I wish I hadn’t. The words were out before I had processed. It was one of those times when I replay the comments over and over in my head while shaking my head and cringing simultaneously. I hoped it wasn’t as bad as I thought. I hoped that when I got … [Read more...] about The Difference A Little Encouragement Makes
Do you remember Show-and-Tell? Other than field day, it was basically the apex of elementary life. I can still remember what I took to show off to my 2nd grade class on Show-and-Tell day. I brought a little glass figurine/doll that my grandma had given me that I thought was so … [Read more...] about Mistaken Identity: Who Do You Think You Are?
The couple met with me almost every week for several months. They leave my office optimistic – even excited – about what their marriage has become and what it will be like in the future. As they leave, the wife turns and says something that has become etched in my memory. “I … [Read more...] about Six “Red Flags” of a Drifting Marriage