There are a variety of reasons a person might give for not wanting to go to counseling. You might be that person. We counselors get it. There are no guarantees when you walk into that office, and it is scary and vulnerable work you’re signing up for. If you’re averse to going … [Read more...] about 5 Reasons People Don’t Go to Counseling
Not all is fair in love and war. It’s hard to believe when we get married that one day we might look at our spouse and see them as the enemy. But over time, and especially during conflict, it can happen. We pick up our weapons, draw battle lines, and dare the other to … [Read more...] about Fighting Fair – Overcoming Conflict in Your Marriage
In relationship, any kind of relationship, more often than not, making assumptions leads to poor communication and misunderstanding. Assumptions hurt. As a counselor, coach, and manager I am often in front of two people who have completely different versions of the same story. … [Read more...] about Assumptions Hurt
What? I know it seems weird for a marriage counselor to say, but it is true. After years of working with couples as a mentor and now as a marriage counselor, there are certain factors that are more important in marriage than “feeling in love.” Please don’t get me wrong. … [Read more...] about Why “Feeling in Love” is Overrated in Marriage.
How Our Marriage Begins: What is it that you enjoy most about a wedding? Is it the music, or the ceremony, or perhaps the reception food? (That’s one of my favorite parts!) For many, it is watching the beautiful bride walk down the aisle. … [Read more...] about Five Reasons We Lose Joy in Marriage
When Betrayal Occurs: What Is Next? It usually begins with a phone call. I can tell from the type of conversation and the tone of voice what is coming next. If the betrayed spouse calls, the voice quivers a bit. Sometimes the person breaks down and sobs. … [Read more...] about After Betrayal: Six Reasons to Hope for the Future