What? I know it seems weird for a marriage counselor to say, but it is true. After years of working with couples as a mentor and now as a marriage counselor, there are certain factors that are more important in marriage than “feeling in love.” Please don’t get me wrong. … [Read more...] about Why “Feeling in Love” is Overrated in Marriage.
How Our Marriage Begins: What is it that you enjoy most about a wedding? Is it the music, or the ceremony, or perhaps the reception food? (That’s one of my favorite parts!) For many, it is watching the beautiful bride walk down the aisle. … [Read more...] about Five Reasons We Lose Joy in Marriage
When Betrayal Occurs: What Is Next? It usually begins with a phone call. I can tell from the type of conversation and the tone of voice what is coming next. If the betrayed spouse calls, the voice quivers a bit. Sometimes the person breaks down and sobs. … [Read more...] about After Betrayal: Six Reasons to Hope for the Future
This is the “Ultimate” Game of the Year. Stay with me here… I know it may seem like a stretch, but as I reflect on the 2019 CFP Championship Game between Alabama and Clemson, I begin to realize the similarities between reaching this goal and reaching the goal of a … [Read more...] about Eight Principles We Can Learn About Marriage from the CFP Championship Teams
The Advice We Don’t Think We Need Before Marriage A number of years ago, my wife and I were leading a “Pre-Marital” class in which we were providing great information about the joys and challenges that many young couples face during their first months and years of … [Read more...] about This is Not What I Thought Marriage Would Be!
Many of the couples who ask me to meet with them have been married 10, 15 or even 25+ years. Their kids are out of the house, and the “empty nester” years that they so anticipated are now here. But it not what they expected. With kids, homework, careers, finances, the yard, … [Read more...] about Is the “High Point” of My Marriage Already Over?