We’ve all heard, “It’s out of my hands” before. Even though this phrase is usually paired with bad news, it still rings true in some instances. Often, in life, some things are out of our control. Accepting that you can not control everything is a step closer to bettering your mindset and outlook on life.
Although hearing bad news or dire circumstances is not fun, sometimes we can’t change the outcome. A weight was lifted from my chest when I began to understand that things happen in life that I can’t change. From that point, I was able to start to change my perspective on things and how I react in certain situations.
For example, if I stop to get coffee and I don’t realize that the workers have gotten my order wrong before leaving, It is out of my control at that point. I could choose to be angry and let the mistake ruin my day, or I can look at the bright side, that I am fortunate enough to be able to get food at all.
It takes self-reflection, courage, and patience to recognize the moments when you can’t control the outcome. One phrase I often refer to when I face instances like this is the serenity prayer.
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
I’m unsure where I first heard this saying, but I have listened to it in church, speeches, and television shows. I frequently recite this prayer to remind me to choose my battles, reflect on my responses, and, overall, to help me take a step back.
In the fast-paced world we live in now, I have seen too many instances where anger or malice dictate a person’s life and actions. Taking a moment to reflect on the circumstances surrounding me is one way I try to practice patience and consideration rather than anger and malice.
No matter the personal battles I have been through in my lifetime or that I will go through, I make an attempt to thank the Lord for the life I have been given. Many nights, I’ll find myself mid-prayer, going on a tangent about how thankful I am for my life. Being able to take time like this to talk to God is another way I can keep myself grounded.
So, if you are facing issues, problems, or situations where you struggle to find the middle ground, try to practice recognizing the things you can’t change. It is always better to lead with an open perspective and take a step back before you react.