“Turn and look at your pain.” I looked back at her with frustration. I don’t want the pain. “You have to acknowledge your pain. Sit in it for a while. Experience the pain. Before you can truly move forward in healing,” she said. If you’re like me, as soon as negative … [Read more...] about Look At Your Pain
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The Seven Most Dangerous Words a Wife Can Ask Her Husband
The Now Infamous French Doors About three years ago, my wife and I had an argument that neither of us understood. It did not last long, but it was intense, and we both learned significant lessons by what we did wrong. Because I am an engineer by education and first career, … [Read more...] about The Seven Most Dangerous Words a Wife Can Ask Her Husband
3 Reasons Small Disagreements “Blow up”
The Goal: I want to win! Last week, my wife and I had a huge fight. Emotions were high. We both were angry with each other. I felt unappreciated and she felt unloved. I didn’t care how she felt because I felt justified in how I was treating her. I’m not quite sure what she … [Read more...] about 3 Reasons Small Disagreements “Blow up”
Understanding Our Emotions
Typically, people come to therapy because of emotional pain — either theirs or those in their inner circle. Sometimes because of trauma, people are so shut down and so far-removed from their emotions that it is difficult for them to even describe what they are feeling. What do … [Read more...] about Understanding Our Emotions
