Speaking the Truth in Love: What it Isn’t Have you ever agonized over something you needed to say to someone but couldn’t figure out how to do it? Maybe you thought about it obsessively, and the more it festered the angrier you got. Maybe you practiced all the ways you were … [Read more...] about Speaking the Truth in Love
emotional management
When Life Feels ‘Meh’
These days it’s not uncommon to look around and see people just going through the motions; not hot, not cold, just existing. Maybe the last two years have thrown a wet blanket on our zest for life; or maybe our days have felt like wash, rinse, and repeat. Whatever the cause, I’ve … [Read more...] about When Life Feels ‘Meh’
When You Hide Your Hurt, You Can’t Find Healing
This post on working through our feelings and not stuffing our emotions was originally posted in 2018. As I work with clients in 2021, through the tumultuous world events that we are all navigating, many of us feel hurt. Some of us still compartmentalize our emotions … [Read more...] about When You Hide Your Hurt, You Can’t Find Healing
What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Numb
As a therapist, I spend a lot of time asking people to tell me about their feelings. Sometimes my prompts are met with tearful reaches for the tissue box or angrily furrowed brows. Other times I see a blank, flat expression. “I don’t know what I feel.” If you have ever … [Read more...] about What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Numb
The ‘Follow Your Arrow’ Fallacy
There’s a catchy country tune that topped the charts not long ago that sung about people following their arrow wherever it points. It talks about doing whatever you want because you only live once, and to let your feelings guide you. The song won awards and I’m guessing for good … [Read more...] about The ‘Follow Your Arrow’ Fallacy
Different Ways of Knowing
Knowledge is highly valued in our modern culture. We sometimes talk about those with “book knowledge”, those who are “worldly wise”, or those who had to “learn in the school of hard knocks”. Presumably the more you know, the more power and influence you have. To a degree … [Read more...] about Different Ways of Knowing
