This post on working through our feelings and not stuffing our emotions was originally posted in 2018. As I work with clients in 2021, through the tumultuous world events that we are all navigating, many of us feel hurt. Some of us still compartmentalize our emotions … [Read more...] about When You Hide Your Hurt, You Can’t Find Healing
As a therapist, I spend a lot of time asking people to tell me about their feelings. Sometimes my prompts are met with tearful reaches for the tissue box or angrily furrowed brows. Other times I see a blank, flat expression. “I don’t know what I feel.” If you have ever … [Read more...] about What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Numb
There’s a catchy country tune that topped the charts not long ago that sung about people following their arrow wherever it points. It talks about doing whatever you want because you only live once, and to let your feelings guide you. The song won awards and I’m guessing for good … [Read more...] about The ‘Follow Your Arrow’ Fallacy
Knowledge is highly valued in our modern culture. We sometimes talk about those with “book knowledge”, those who are “worldly wise”, or those who had to “learn in the school of hard knocks”. Presumably the more you know, the more power and influence you have. To a degree … [Read more...] about Different Ways of Knowing
Rejection Hurts. There is no simpler way to put it. We all at some point in our lives faced a form of rejection to various degrees and causing pain and hurt in our lives. It especially hurts when it comes from people or things that we have invested so much time, energy, and … [Read more...] about How Do You Deal With Rejection?
Self-protecting is a natural human instinct. We are created with this drive for safety- and it serves a good purpose. It keeps us alive and unscathed. It’s a necessary instinct that prevents us from doing something dangerous, stupid, or thoughtless like the cliché jumping off of … [Read more...] about A Word to the Self-Protectors | The Risk, Cost, and Reward of Meaningfulness