There’s a catchy country tune that topped the charts not long ago that sung about people following their arrow wherever it points. It talks about doing whatever you want because you only live once, and to let your feelings guide you. The song won awards and I’m guessing for good … [Read more...] about The ‘Follow Your Arrow’ Fallacy
During the “Deep Freeze of 2021,” many of us endured the coldest, most prolonged winter experience that we could imagine. Snow, freezing rain, loss of electricity, no heat – you name it, we experienced it. What better way, to enjoy the snow than to walk around … [Read more...] about The Hidden Messages Within “Let It Go” Should Alarm Us
Relationship problems are a common reason people pursue therapy. And not surprisingly, many clients have been more than a little frustrated they are the ones talking to me, when clearly their partner or family member is the one with the problem! They have nagged and scolded and … [Read more...] about Why Should I Go to Therapy When He (She) Is the Problem?!
What I Learned in Chemical Plants That Mirrors the Marriage Relationship Safe plant operations are like marriage? You’ve got to be kidding! How in the world do we find the parallels between working in the chemical industry and the marriage relationship? I am so glad you … [Read more...] about Compliance vs. Commitment in Your Marriage: Which Defines You?
“You can’t talk yourself out of problems you behave yourself into.” Exactly. I read this quote out of Stephen Covey’s book, Seven Habits of Effective People where he describes his concept of an emotional bank account. It stood out to me because I have had to … [Read more...] about Broken Trust Is Not Easily Restored
“I have said I am sorry. How many times do I have to say it?” Does this sound familiar? And often either the husband or the wife is the “usual” one to come back and apologize for some infraction, argument, tone of voice, or conflict. And often the one who is … [Read more...] about Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)