Relationship problems are a common reason people pursue therapy. And not surprisingly, many clients have been more than a little frustrated they are the ones talking to me, when clearly their partner or family member is the one with the problem! They have nagged and scolded and … [Read more...] about Why Should I Go to Therapy When He (She) Is the Problem?!
What I Learned in Chemical Plants That Mirrors the Marriage Relationship Safe plant operations are like marriage? You’ve got to be kidding! How in the world do we find the parallels between working in the chemical industry and the marriage relationship? I am so glad you … [Read more...] about Compliance vs. Commitment in Your Marriage: Which Defines You?
“You can’t talk yourself out of problems you behave yourself into.” Exactly. I read this quote out of Stephen Covey’s book, Seven Habits of Effective People where he describes his concept of an emotional bank account. It stood out to me because I have had to … [Read more...] about Broken Trust Is Not Easily Restored
“I have said I am sorry. How many times do I have to say it?” Does this sound familiar? And often either the husband or the wife is the “usual” one to come back and apologize for some infraction, argument, tone of voice, or conflict. And often the one who is … [Read more...] about Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)
I am sitting on my back patio, enjoying a glorious Spring day, determined to write about ANYTHING but COVID-19! I am guessing I am not the only one who is over-saturated with updates, opinions, and emotions running high. So instead I thought I would write about some things that … [Read more...] about The Other Side of Anger
In last week’s blog we talked about how the Coronavirus pandemic has collectively and individually thrown our equilibrium off, our nervous systems are probably freaking out, and why it’s important to understand what’s happening in our bodies physically, mentally and emotionally. … [Read more...] about Practical Ways to Regulate in Quarantine