Relationship dynamics can be confusing and muddy and leave you feeling unsure of which way is up. Am I right? Are they right? What are we even trying to get to here? Balancing the emotions, desires and needs of other people is complicated. And as someone who is simply … [Read more...] about A.R.E. you there? A Goal for Marriage (And All Intimate Relationships)
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Relentless Love, Redeeming Love
The other day my husband and I went to the movie theatre for the first time in two years. We wanted to see Redeeming Love, a movie based on a wildly popular book by Francine Rivers, which parallels the story of Hosea. I wondered how the book would play out on film. More … [Read more...] about Relentless Love, Redeeming Love
Indecision or Stress, Which Comes First?
Stress and Decision Making Ability Work has been crazy, the kids are a mess, and I only slept 4 hours last night. I just dropped them off at pre-school and am late for my first meeting. The stress is palpable. My heart is racing and I swear I can’t … [Read more...] about Indecision or Stress, Which Comes First?
The ‘Follow Your Arrow’ Fallacy
There’s a catchy country tune that topped the charts not long ago that sung about people following their arrow wherever it points. It talks about doing whatever you want because you only live once, and to let your feelings guide you. The song won awards and I’m guessing for good … [Read more...] about The ‘Follow Your Arrow’ Fallacy
The Hidden Messages Within “Let It Go” Should Alarm Us
During the “Deep Freeze of 2021,” many of us endured the coldest, most prolonged winter experience that we could imagine. Snow, freezing rain, loss of electricity, no heat – you name it, we experienced it. What better way, to enjoy the snow than to walk around … [Read more...] about The Hidden Messages Within “Let It Go” Should Alarm Us
Why Should I Go to Therapy When He (She) Is the Problem?!
Relationship problems are a common reason people pursue therapy. And not surprisingly, many clients have been more than a little frustrated they are the ones talking to me, when clearly their partner or family member is the one with the problem! They have nagged and scolded and … [Read more...] about Why Should I Go to Therapy When He (She) Is the Problem?!