Relationship dynamics can be confusing and muddy and leave you feeling unsure of which way is up. Am I right? Are they right? What are we even trying to get to here? Balancing the emotions, desires and needs of other people is complicated. And as someone who is simply … [Read more...] about A.R.E. you there? A Goal for Marriage (And All Intimate Relationships)
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What To Expect When You Go To Counseling
If you’ve never been to counseling before, it may seem scary and unknown. In fact, there’s a chance that the uncertainty of therapy is what has kept you from pursuing it before. What are your perceptions of what counseling is like or the kinds of people who go to counseling? Take … [Read more...] about What To Expect When You Go To Counseling
Climbing the Mountain of Marriage
This past weekend me and my husband went to North Carolina for the wedding of our good friends. After a flight full of anxious travelers excessively wiping down their seats to make sure they don’t catch the Coronavirus and a 30 minute anxiety-filled drive up a mountain, we … [Read more...] about Climbing the Mountain of Marriage
Fighting Fair – Overcoming Conflict in Your Marriage
Not all is fair in love and war. It’s hard to believe when we get married that one day we might look at our spouse and see them as the enemy. But over time, and especially during conflict, it can happen. We pick up our weapons, draw battle lines, and dare the other to … [Read more...] about Fighting Fair – Overcoming Conflict in Your Marriage
Assumptions Hurt
In relationship, any kind of relationship, more often than not, making assumptions leads to poor communication and misunderstanding. Assumptions hurt. As a counselor, coach, and manager I am often in front of two people who have completely different versions of the same story. … [Read more...] about Assumptions Hurt
After Betrayal: Six Reasons to Hope for the Future
When Betrayal Occurs: What Is Next? It usually begins with a phone call. I can tell from the type of conversation and the tone of voice what is coming next. If the betrayed spouse calls, the voice quivers a bit. Sometimes the person breaks down and sobs. … [Read more...] about After Betrayal: Six Reasons to Hope for the Future
