If you’ve never been to counseling before, it may seem scary and unknown. In fact, there’s a chance that the uncertainty of therapy is what has kept you from pursuing it before. What are your perceptions of what counseling is like or the kinds of people who go to counseling? Take … [Read more...] about What To Expect When You Go To Counseling
I am sitting on my back patio, enjoying a glorious Spring day, determined to write about ANYTHING but COVID-19! I am guessing I am not the only one who is over-saturated with updates, opinions, and emotions running high. So instead I thought I would write about some things that … [Read more...] about The Other Side of Anger
How It Began “Have you washed your hands?” I have probably heard my wife ask me this question at least 50 times a day during the last several weeks. Sometimes I had remembered, sometimes I had not. Sound familiar? During the first several … [Read more...] about Is Social Distancing Causing Marriage Distancing?
Many of the couples who ask me to meet with them have been married 10, 15 or even 25+ years. Their kids are out of the house, and the “empty nester” years that they so anticipated are now here. But it not what they expected. With kids, homework, careers, finances, the yard, … [Read more...] about Is the “High Point” of My Marriage Already Over?
When I was in college I had the opportunity to canoe on some of the most beautiful and challenging white water in north Georgia, Tennessee and North Carolina. Picture some of the rapids shown in the 1994 movie The River Wild. In the spring, the water was high and the currents … [Read more...] about Three Things White Water Canoeing and Marriage Have in Common
“I don’t know how it happens! We find ourselves yelling at each other – and we can’t even remember what started it!” “We seem to be arguing more and more.” “If we could only communicate better. That’s all we need. Then maybe we wouldn’t be angry at each other all the … [Read more...] about How to “Decode” Anger’s Secret Message