Many of the couples who ask me to meet with them have been married 10, 15 or even 25+ years. Their kids are out of the house, and the “empty nester” years that they so anticipated are now here. But it not what they expected. With kids, homework, careers, finances, the yard, … [Read more...] about Is the “High Point” of My Marriage Already Over?
When I was in college I had the opportunity to canoe on some of the most beautiful and challenging white water in north Georgia, Tennessee and North Carolina. Picture some of the rapids shown in the 1994 movie The River Wild. In the spring, the water was high and the currents … [Read more...] about Three Things White Water Canoeing and Marriage Have in Common
“I don’t know how it happens! We find ourselves yelling at each other – and we can’t even remember what started it!” “We seem to be arguing more and more.” “If we could only communicate better. That’s all we need. Then maybe we wouldn’t be angry at each other all the … [Read more...] about How to “Decode” Anger’s Secret Message
Tis’ the season... the season of engagements and weddings! This is the current season I am in as a 24-year-old. The season of life when I can just about bet that I will log into Facebook between October - January and see that just about every weekend someone else I know is … [Read more...] about Have You Prepared For Life AFTER the Wedding Ceremony?
Do you remember Show-and-Tell? Other than field day, it was basically the apex of elementary life. I can still remember what I took to show off to my 2nd grade class on Show-and-Tell day. I brought a little glass figurine/doll that my grandma had given me that I thought was so … [Read more...] about Mistaken Identity: Who Do You Think You Are?
The couple met with me almost every week for several months. They leave my office optimistic – even excited – about what their marriage has become and what it will be like in the future. As they leave, the wife turns and says something that has become etched in my memory. “I … [Read more...] about Six “Red Flags” of a Drifting Marriage