This may seem like an odd title for a blog. Most would assume that if you bothered to marry someone you at least like them. Things may start off that way, but all too often as the years go by our general regard for one another can be tainted with bitterness, hidden resentment, or … [Read more...] about Learning to Like Your Spouse Again
What Happened? Why Do Many Lose Hope? No one decides on their wedding day that their marriage is going to end. The anticipation and excitement of this new union are at first contagious. But later, so many marriages seem to lose this hope. It often is replaced by an … [Read more...] about Couples in Crises: Why Should I Stay Married?
I Long to Live in “Precedented” Times. You may have heard this phrase – or seen a meme on Facebook or Instagram “I long to live in precedented times.” What in the world does this even mean? We hear dozens of times a day on newscasts, on talk shows, and … [Read more...] about The Healing of Our Nation and Our Marriages
What I Learned in Chemical Plants That Mirrors the Marriage Relationship Safe plant operations are like marriage? You’ve got to be kidding! How in the world do we find the parallels between working in the chemical industry and the marriage relationship? I am so glad you … [Read more...] about Compliance vs. Commitment in Your Marriage: Which Defines You?
“You can’t talk yourself out of problems you behave yourself into.” Exactly. I read this quote out of Stephen Covey’s book, Seven Habits of Effective People where he describes his concept of an emotional bank account. It stood out to me because I have had to … [Read more...] about Broken Trust Is Not Easily Restored
The Pattern: Argument Amnesia Ask yourself this question: How often do my spouse and I argue about something, and then the next day I can’t remember what triggered the argument? I certainly remember the tension and the anger or distance I felt, but I … [Read more...] about Why Couples Do Not Recover from Arguments Well