What Happened? Why Do Many Lose Hope? No one decides on their wedding day that their marriage is going to end. The anticipation and excitement of this new union are at first contagious. But later, so many marriages seem to lose this hope. It often is replaced by an … [Read more...] about Couples in Crises: Why Should I Stay Married?
I Long to Live in “Precedented” Times. You may have heard this phrase – or seen a meme on Facebook or Instagram “I long to live in precedented times.” What in the world does this even mean? We hear dozens of times a day on newscasts, on talk shows, and … [Read more...] about The Healing of Our Nation and Our Marriages
“You can’t talk yourself out of problems you behave yourself into.” Exactly. I read this quote out of Stephen Covey’s book, Seven Habits of Effective People where he describes his concept of an emotional bank account. It stood out to me because I have had to … [Read more...] about Broken Trust Is Not Easily Restored
The Pattern: Argument Amnesia Ask yourself this question: How often do my spouse and I argue about something, and then the next day I can’t remember what triggered the argument? I certainly remember the tension and the anger or distance I felt, but I … [Read more...] about Why Couples Do Not Recover from Arguments Well
“I have said I am sorry. How many times do I have to say it?” Does this sound familiar? And often either the husband or the wife is the “usual” one to come back and apologize for some infraction, argument, tone of voice, or conflict. And often the one who is … [Read more...] about Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)
How It Began “Have you washed your hands?” I have probably heard my wife ask me this question at least 50 times a day during the last several weeks. Sometimes I had remembered, sometimes I had not. Sound familiar? During the first several … [Read more...] about Is Social Distancing Causing Marriage Distancing?