Recently I saw a couple who gave me one of those moments therapists live for: when something finally changes. We’ve been working for weeks towards getting out of their well-worn patterns when it comes to conflict. Inching toward doing things in a new and better … [Read more...] about Therapy in Pictures: Family Systems
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Choosing Adoration in Middle Marriage
Listen to the blog: I walked a different route to our usual pew at church on Sunday, which caused me to quite literally run into my friend. After a quick rebound from our collision, he said, "Man, Allison, you really had me messed up this week." "Why is … [Read more...] about Choosing Adoration in Middle Marriage
When the Distance Between You Becomes Normal in Marriage: Why Couples Slowly Drift Apart
A reflection on emotional distance in marriage, why couples slowly drift apart, and how spouses can begin reconnecting again. Listen to the blog: You sit in the same house every evening. One spouse is in the kitchen with the television on.The other sits in … [Read more...] about When the Distance Between You Becomes Normal in Marriage: Why Couples Slowly Drift Apart
Helping Your Spouse Open Up Again
I’ve had the honor of working with many couples over the past several years, and although the stories are unique, the issues usually aren’t. Typically there’s a breach of trust that makes loving and respecting each other difficult, if not impossible. The breach may be obvious … [Read more...] about Helping Your Spouse Open Up Again
Marriage: Is God Enough In Hard Times?
As a marriage counselor, I get the joy of seeing complete reconciliation of the relationship and a better marriage than in the beginning. But, at the same time, I must first walk through the valleys with people who do not see a path forward nor can imagine the outcome they hope … [Read more...] about Marriage: Is God Enough In Hard Times?
Fighting to Win in Your Marriage
Marriage is not always an easy road; it’s filled with bumps, holes, and at times can feel like it’s paved with broken glass. It’s not a forgiving environment for couples who have a lot of conflict or offend easily. Fighting is inevitable in any relationship, but all too often our … [Read more...] about Fighting to Win in Your Marriage
