This may seem like an odd title for a blog. Most would assume that if you bothered to marry someone you at least like them. Things may start off that way, but all too often as the years go by our general regard for one another can be tainted with bitterness, hidden resentment, or … [Read more...] about Learning to Like Your Spouse Again
What Happened? Why Do Many Lose Hope? No one decides on their wedding day that their marriage is going to end. The anticipation and excitement of this new union are at first contagious. But later, so many marriages seem to lose this hope. It often is replaced by an … [Read more...] about Couples in Crises: Why Should I Stay Married?
During the “Deep Freeze of 2021,” many of us endured the coldest, most prolonged winter experience that we could imagine. Snow, freezing rain, loss of electricity, no heat – you name it, we experienced it. What better way, to enjoy the snow than to walk around … [Read more...] about The Hidden Messages Within “Let It Go” Should Alarm Us
What I Learned in Chemical Plants That Mirrors the Marriage Relationship Safe plant operations are like marriage? You’ve got to be kidding! How in the world do we find the parallels between working in the chemical industry and the marriage relationship? I am so glad you … [Read more...] about Compliance vs. Commitment in Your Marriage: Which Defines You?
The Pattern: Argument Amnesia Ask yourself this question: How often do my spouse and I argue about something, and then the next day I can’t remember what triggered the argument? I certainly remember the tension and the anger or distance I felt, but I … [Read more...] about Why Couples Do Not Recover from Arguments Well
“I have said I am sorry. How many times do I have to say it?” Does this sound familiar? And often either the husband or the wife is the “usual” one to come back and apologize for some infraction, argument, tone of voice, or conflict. And often the one who is … [Read more...] about Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)