I'll be honest — some hurts I don't let go easily, especially if it is a person I highly respect or care about. Even if the person apologizes, if it feels like they only half see what they did, my brain won't stop replaying it. Consciously, I accept the apology and believe in my … [Read more...] about When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: Navigating Apologies That Don’t Heal
How to Regain Composure When You Feel Overwhelmed or Anxious
Overwhelm tends to sneak up on you. The first thing any of us thinks is how do we make this feeling stop. It all started with an innocent plan — three weeks of grandkid duty. We love our grandchildren, but as longtime empty nesters, we’re not exactly conditioned for life … [Read more...] about How to Regain Composure When You Feel Overwhelmed or Anxious
How To Keep Going With a Broken Heart
Fortunately, there are only a couple of times I can remember in my 60 years when my heart felt broken. To me, the definition of heartbreak is multifaceted. As a counselor, even though heartbreak is not in the DSM-5 manual of mental disorders, I can list the many symptoms: • A … [Read more...] about How To Keep Going With a Broken Heart
The Root of Co-Dependence: Are You Trying to Be Someone’s Savior?
We all want to help the people we love.To rescue them from pain.To hold them together when life is falling apart. That instinct—especially for Christians—can feel like compassion and even our duty. And sometimes it is. But there’s a fine line between helping someone and taking … [Read more...] about The Root of Co-Dependence: Are You Trying to Be Someone’s Savior?
Life is a Circular— Learning to Build Margin Again
Life is circular, and therefore, setbacks are inevitable. What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 1:9) Two and a half decades ago, I had to completely change my life. Honestly, life becoming … [Read more...] about Life is a Circular— Learning to Build Margin Again
The Quiet Damage of Hiding Your Expectations
I think there are two alternative points of view when it comes to expectations. Many people would say, “If you don’t have any expectations, you won’t be disappointed.” Maybe this would work—just maybe. But what if you’re just telling yourself, you don’t have any … [Read more...] about The Quiet Damage of Hiding Your Expectations
