Forgiveness. We know it is something we should do, but how exactly do we do it? There are a lot of misconceptions about forgiveness that actually keep us from forgiving others. Before we consider the how, we have to be clear on what forgiveness is and isn’t. Forgiveness is not … [Read more...] about The Roadmap to Forgiveness
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I Can’t Forgive Myself
A common dilemma for many of us is that we want to change, we want to move on, but we remain stuck. We believe the past, with all of its poor choices, defines who we are and determines our future. Many of us simply did not know another way to handle our loneliness, insecurities, … [Read more...] about I Can’t Forgive Myself
Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)
“I have said I am sorry. How many times do I have to say it?” Does this sound familiar? And often either the husband or the wife is the “usual” one to come back and apologize for some infraction, argument, tone of voice, or conflict. And often the one who is … [Read more...] about Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)
I Know God Forgives Me But I Don’t Forgive Me
One of the first people I saw as a counselor was a gentleman in his 60’s who was sure that he was cut-off from God for eternity. He believed that if you betrayed God, He was done with you forever. What was his betrayal? The betrayal is not relevant to God, repentance and … [Read more...] about I Know God Forgives Me But I Don’t Forgive Me
The Secret to Asking for Forgiveness
Husbands: Can You Relate? One of my goals as a husband is to lead my wife well. But this includes the responsibilities of protecting her, loving her in a way that is meaningful to her, and seeking to resolve the stresses and conflicts in our marriage in a way that honors … [Read more...] about The Secret to Asking for Forgiveness
When Life is Out of Control
When life is out of control, or better said, when I am not in control, many emotions pop-up. And, of course, I don’t always feel like I can control them. There is a lot of thoughts going on about control here. But, I find that whenever we feel like things are … [Read more...] about When Life is Out of Control
