In recent months, I’ve been both writing about and wrestling with what true forgiveness looks like. It is easy to question yourself. Big emotions still arise; did I really forgive? I thought I did. Why do I still feel this way? The question that keeps … [Read more...] about Forgiveness Is a Choice, Healing Is a Process
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The Healing Path Of Forgiveness: A Long and Winding Journey
From a young age, I knew I didn't have a traditional family. It was always my Nanny (aunt/godmother) and me. She played the roles of my mother and father. To me, that was my normal. But the older I got, the more questions I would receive about my birth parents. My answer was … [Read more...] about The Healing Path Of Forgiveness: A Long and Winding Journey
The Roadmap to Forgiveness
Forgiveness. We know it is something we should do, but how exactly do we do it? There are a lot of misconceptions about forgiveness that actually keep us from forgiving others. Before we consider the how, we have to be clear on what forgiveness is and isn’t. Forgiveness is not … [Read more...] about The Roadmap to Forgiveness
I Can’t Forgive Myself
A common dilemma for many of us is that we want to change, we want to move on, but we remain stuck. We believe the past, with all of its poor choices, defines who we are and determines our future. Many of us simply did not know another way to handle our loneliness, insecurities, … [Read more...] about I Can’t Forgive Myself
Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)
“I have said I am sorry. How many times do I have to say it?” Does this sound familiar? And often either the husband or the wife is the “usual” one to come back and apologize for some infraction, argument, tone of voice, or conflict. And often the one who is … [Read more...] about Five Reasons Why Your Apologies Don’t Work (and Seven Ways to Make it Effective)
I Know God Forgives Me But I Don’t Forgive Me
One of the first people I saw as a counselor was a gentleman in his 60’s who was sure that he was cut-off from God for eternity. He believed that if you betrayed God, He was done with you forever. What was his betrayal? The betrayal is not relevant to God, repentance and … [Read more...] about I Know God Forgives Me But I Don’t Forgive Me
