Pride or Shame Sadly, mental health concerns continue to be a source of shame for many people. What would people think of me if they knew I was in therapy? Sometimes clients are heaping shame on themselves, and sometimes family or friends are shaming them for needing help. … [Read more...] about 4 Common Reasons People Avoid Getting Help
Avoidance is common and yet it is one of the worst habits or coping styles we use. It offers the promise of temporary peace but ultimately makes our future that much harder. Short-term gain for inevitable long-term pain. Why is this such a common problem? There are many reasons … [Read more...] about The Cost of Avoidance and How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself
Almost everyone who comes through my office hears me say “A belief is just a belief, a thought is just a thought, an emotion is just an emotion. Just because I believe something does not make it true. Just because I think something does not make it true. Just because I feel … [Read more...] about Healthy Discernment
Most therapists read a lot. Between graduate school and continuing education requirements, we have been exposed to many excellent, insightful books. I thought I would share some books I think everyone should read. Books are not a substitute for needed therapy, but if you really … [Read more...] about Books Everyone Should Read
Relationship problems are a common reason people pursue therapy. And not surprisingly, many clients have been more than a little frustrated they are the ones talking to me, when clearly their partner or family member is the one with the problem! They have nagged and scolded and … [Read more...] about Why Should I Go to Therapy When He (She) Is the Problem?!
I am old enough to remember the assassination of President Kennedy, the race riots, the Vietnam protests, and the Watergate scandal. Granted I was young, but I definitely picked up on the angst and anger of those around me. I can remember a Canadian friend asking me at that time … [Read more...] about Living in Contentious Times