We all have our own ways of protecting ourselves. If you’ve been hurt or fear being hurt, then obviously we find ways to avoid dealing with pain again in the future. These ways of thinking or emotional self protective habits and behaviors were likely developed during a season … [Read more...] about Avoiding Pain Denies Your Joy
About Rachel Miley
Halfway Through the Year
We are halfway through the year. If you are like me, this is hard to believe. Time is both slow and fast, and the seasons have been out of the ordinary for quite a while. Many of us probably sat down in January and wrote out all of our well-intentioned efforts to make this year … [Read more...] about Halfway Through the Year
A Word to the Self-Protectors | The Risk, Cost, and Reward of Meaningfulness
Self-protecting is a natural human instinct. We are created with this drive for safety- and it serves a good purpose. It keeps us alive and unscathed. It’s a necessary instinct that prevents us from doing something dangerous, stupid, or thoughtless like the cliché jumping off of … [Read more...] about A Word to the Self-Protectors | The Risk, Cost, and Reward of Meaningfulness
How to Define Trauma
In recent years, the concept of trauma has become normative in our daily vernacular. What I mean by that is culture is talking about trauma in ways that we have never seen before. In so many ways, this is progress! But like so many concepts, there is a spectrum of … [Read more...] about How to Define Trauma
When Counseling Is Not What You Thought
I went to counseling this week. (Yes, counselors have counselors, too.) I’ve had a longstanding relationship with my therapist, scheduling appointments off and on when I’ve needed some extra help navigating seasons of life for the last eight years or so. Sometimes that’s meant … [Read more...] about When Counseling Is Not What You Thought
How to Find a Counselor
Finding a new counselor can be confusing, to say the least. There are all kinds of different licenses, specializations, theories, approaches, the list goes on… How the heck are you supposed to decipher all of the different varieties of information you see on the internet? We … [Read more...] about How to Find a Counselor
